What we know about a crying baby is commonly known by everyone. The best possibilities of what the cry means are the baby;
1.needs meal (milk from her mommy)
2.needs to urine or (toilet)
Everyone says that only mommy knows what her baby wants. I think that’s not too right. Sometimes a mother finds difficulties about what her baby wants. Specially when her baby is crying. A mother has fed, changed baby’s clothes, and everything has been done but the baby’s still crying. So, what happened then? Other possibilities are that the baby feels ill, too warm in a certain room, and sometimes we give the baby toys or toys’ baby. However, the baby’s still crying. So, what now?
Sometimes, a mother’s right but sometimes she’s wrong.
Please look at this back before we continue this discussion!
if a baby could talk or say something clearly, she/he would say what she/he sees, feels and hears and tells those to her mother or other people near him/her. However, the baby has no power or in “no readiness” condition for his/her physical organ. This is not because the organs can not be used, but too little or weak to use. However, his/her ‘readiness’ preceeds his/her weakness. So, what your baby wants when she/he doesn’t stop crying although you have tried everything for him/her.
Readiness
Because of a baby has no physical power to realize what she/he finds, she/he cries to change the way to express what he/she sees, feels and hears. A baby’s thinking is limited to fulfil his/her weakness such as, how to grow up soon and to keep healthy and survive. Because of this, she/he would reject everything disturbs his/her comportability, like from fire, heat, cold and so on. What she/he wants is that he/she wants to survive and to live and to grow up immediately.
When the baby’s crying, try the commonly ways such as; feed your baby. if she/he rejects, maybe she/he needs to urine or ‘something’. If this action is wrong and the baby is still crying, what should a mother do are;
1.Look around him (is there something bite him (e.g. insects like an ants, etc) ?, Or something sharp like knife, gillete etc, or ) or fire or something burned near him)
2.Is the room too warm or hot for your baby? if it is true, bring him outside the room.or too cold then you should cover your beloved baby with a warm special blanket. (for a baby).
3.look and touch her body or forehead, is he/she fever? If it is, call a doctor and let the doctor does some diagnoses for your baby. on the other hand, you should see a doctor.
Besides, you can see if your baby gets sweat or not?, take a look at her eyes, red or not? Or the clothes is not worth to wear or try to change her/his clothes then.
Actually, a mother has great power to analize or to find what makes her baby uncomportable and cry to express it. To reach this power, a mother have to love and care for her baby so much with the whole of her love. One concentration for one thing, specially for her baby will make a mother’s feeling more sensitive to find what happen to her baby? this will automatically work without training, learning or to do something like experiments. It means that a mother has a great power to keep her baby as good as possible. Although she is a ‘green’ mother (she has just already given birth for her first baby). Feeling with whole love is true feeling. I guarantee for this theory!
What baby’s parent feels must be the same what the baby feels. So, don’t ever think something deeply or hard or feeling frustrated. Otherwise, your baby will think more than you do! Remember this! If your baby has a power, he/she will help you to find the solution for your problem. Tell your baby that you are happy now and feel happy when you meet him/her (although the baby knows what you are feeling right now!). just tell him/her like that!. Smile at him/her sweetly and say something when you leave or go home like, “Morning, david!, “see you jennifer!” (don’t forget to call/address her name).
To make your baby more comportable, invite him/her to go around and spend your time to be with her!, only three of you; You (mother), your husband and your beloved baby!. don’t do more than that. Let your baby know you and your husband much to unite your feelings each other. This method is the best one to grow up the sensitive feeling. Spend your time for this, for examples, 3 times a week (or at least once a week). No buts, no argue for this or you will be regretful!!!...... .
A crying baby has an exact reason for what she/he cries. It is not like us with full of lies or ‘comedy’. A baby is always true when she/he expresses something. If she/he lies, her mother will not trust him/her and this is impossible for a baby. I mean he/she will not do that. This will destroy himself/herself.
HIDDEN LAUGHING BABY
Something that makes a mother happy is when her baby laughs. She would think that this is a nice experience in her life. She tought that the baby is happy too. Laughs of babies’ are true laughs. But what makes a baby laugh? Do babies look at something funny? Or the babies understand what her mother means like ... “Andi! ... Gotcha!”, for instance. This is one of way for mother to make her baby laugh. But is it a true laugh?
What is in baby’s mind is what she/he gets from her mother and others around him/her. This reality means that the form of response you give or present to your baby has limits.
It depends on the stimulus you give to your baby. A laugh of a baby is different of others. This difference is interfered with the situation and condition influenced by the environment where the baby lives. Some baby will respond her mother expression (like above) with full of laugh. However, another won’t. A baby in the city will be closer with a serious face, little laugh and too much cry. Then the baby in a village will be full of laugh because the system of life there is limited, not complicated and not too much serious like a baby in a big city.
One of the way to change this reality is to :
1.Create or establish a natural environment around your baby
2.Whatever problem or conflict you have right now, make a cute and happy face in front of your baby.
3.Act like your baby act (but don’t make yourself a fool)
Althought number 1 has been done, if you show your horrible face in front of a baby or at least, she/he hears anger or shout from you to your husband, this, automatically, could make your baby depressive and not longer fresh in her/his mind. This must be influenced of your baby, so stay cool and fun!. What does ‘act like your baby act!” means. Some fathers usually act like a clown to make their child or their babies happy and laugh. For a moment this can be tolerated but for further action this will impact to the baby’s politeness to her parent (This is an urgent expression from me!).
A laughing baby describes a happy baby.
Hidden Laugh
What I mean with the sub title above is that a baby has something else what makes her/him laugh. Based on the experiments and a series of experiences, what makes your baby laugh is because of looking at your funny face. He/she doesn’t understand what the attitude of yours mean. She/he just knows that your face get changed now and it influence her personality and sensitivity. When you act like a clown, the baby will think that life is full of something fun and fun forever. But when you present something funny without acting like a clown, the baby will image something true fun and something necessary to think for his/her coming days.
